tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post4690809856558084437..comments2023-11-02T03:05:51.769-07:00Comments on Chock Late: and the Mama Bear said...Mayahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06951245243340114887noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-50448352951570560122007-02-07T21:30:00.000-08:002007-02-07T21:30:00.000-08:00I would have gotten defensive and acted like it di...I would have gotten defensive and acted like it didn't bother me. Then I'd tell a million people about how wrong they were, point by point. Then I'd obsess about all the stuff I should have said.....which would be something like, "When you say these things it really hurts my feelings. I hear you're angry and I'm not going to talk to you anymore if you are going to be accusatory." It sounds so good in my head.Leslie Wilson Corsbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09358685468351271750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-47215798761346876442007-02-07T15:48:00.000-08:002007-02-07T15:48:00.000-08:00I don't know. I have reached an age I like to cal...I don't know. I have reached an age I like to call "the crazy" because whereas I used to be rational, calm and collected and face things head on now I am a screaming maniac who will threaten to bludgeon you until you stop being stupid. So, I guess, I don't know how to resolve things like a normal person anymore. <br /><br />I do think, however, the crazy aside, that you handled this situation quite well. You got your point across. That matters.Erishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10913461157351555545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-30765906958062745012007-02-06T23:35:00.000-08:002007-02-06T23:35:00.000-08:00I'm a bit like the last commenter. I am afraid I h...I'm a bit like the last commenter. I am afraid I hate and avoid conflict, and would tend to quietly withdraw - the person would wonder what they ever did wrong. I would cool off the relationship. I wouldn't be as brave as you and send off an email ... I'd want to leave it, give them the cold shoulder. It's either a kiwi thing or a generational one - we don't tend to confront. Maybe we should ...Kay Cookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01791873464409271216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-20726829135219984992007-02-06T18:20:00.000-08:002007-02-06T18:20:00.000-08:00I've been in that situation once or twice, and I n...I've been in that situation once or twice, and I normally determine that they're not worth my time or energy. I cut off all contact and if I HAVE to see them, I am polite but curt and dry. I don't believe in yelling, screaming, and making things worse than they are. Two wrongs don't make a right in my book.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-67970931633986175422007-02-06T17:24:00.000-08:002007-02-06T17:24:00.000-08:00Sweet baby J. I don't know what I'd do, but based ...Sweet baby J. I don't know what I'd do, but based on recent awful experiences with the psycho that married my father-in-law, I guess I'd smile and try to be the peacekeeper, then rip her a new one on my blog, and hope I never have to see her again. But my lying, irrational psycho doesn't admit to any wrongdoing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-89189439740853971902007-02-06T12:24:00.000-08:002007-02-06T12:24:00.000-08:00I love how honest you are. I'm totally over it aft...I love how honest you are. I'm totally over it after the reply I got to my email to them. Vannie and I talked for like an HOUR the other night- she's such a sweetie - I hope the wedding goes great (rubbing hands togeter diabolically while thinking of all the stuff I told her).Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06951245243340114887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19337956.post-48859660293377648702007-02-06T09:43:00.000-08:002007-02-06T09:43:00.000-08:00Oh dear, I'm really sorry you had to go through th...Oh dear, I'm really sorry you had to go through that. That's extremely difficult to deal with, especially coming from someone you regularly see or associate with.<br /><br />I'm not sure how I would have reacted. Most likely I would have done the following in this order:<br /><br />A. Gasped, being completely shocked and taken aback at the accusations.<br />B. Repied in a gaspy high-pitched voice: "what?!" "how?!" "when?" "where?!"<br />C. After hearing the response I'd go into defense mode with expressions such as, "No, no, it couldn't be; That's not what he meant; That's not how he is;" etc.<br />D. Gotten into the car to leave and start yelling at Hub-E what So-And-So said and the nerve! and I can't believe it! and I'm so pissed! and all that.<br />E. Gotten home and continued to yell in disbelief and walk around sighing and fuming, venting, deep in black thoughts.<br />F. Maybe, depending on severity of situation, would have called up So-And-So to reiterate how mistaken they are and defend Hub-E again, trying to remain calm and respectful. Try to reason with So-And-So and convince them they are mistaken.<br />G. Not be satisfied until I had a heartfelt apology.<br />H. If I didn't get an apology, I'd probably give So-And-So the cold shoulder and go out of my way to avoid them.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17797689664319916869noreply@blogger.com